Have you spent any time to evaluate where you are in life?
I mean really planned time out of your busy or non-busy life to sit down in the quiet and determine what experiences have brought you to this moment in time?
Are you where you want to be or where you thought you might be by this time, by this age in your life? Do you often say to yourself I wish this, or I could have done this or recite the entire shoulda, woulda coulda routine? Do you harbor regrets???? Do you feel any of the following (5) five listed regrets fit you? They eat at you. There is no need to feel that way. It is unhealthy to harbor those feelings. You may disagree with me, yet; read on do not quit here.
The following was written by Bronnie Ware a writer and songwriter from Australia who spent several years workinged in palliative care spending days supporting individuals in their last days of life. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness. The above 5 were shared from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bronnie-ware/top-5-regrets-of-the-dyin_b_1220965.html. This post above was originally published on Inspiration and Chai.
Forgive yourself right now and create a new plan for your future life, beginning with quiet time daily.
There is always a time to begin and that is now. It is never too late to begin a new.
You may not meditate, or pray, or make time to sit quietly. I had not meditated or made time to sit quietly until I began this #MKE course last fall. I always thought I did not have time for that stuff. I always thought I had a whole list of things I needed to get done. My friend has meditated for years. my daughter-in-law teaches yoga classes and I have heard the benefits of quiet time and yoga for years, but; I have not listened.
When I started to sit 15 minutes each day, what a challenge that was. I thought of all the things I could be doing during that time. Gradually and I did not sit everyday when I started my sit practice and I am still a work in progress, yet the days I sit each week are a gift. I have learned to quiet my mind. That in itself is a gift.
Let’s review meditation, praying in silence, just sitting quietly whatever you call this practice. You may have never considered this option in life but here are (4) four powerful reasons to sitting quietly each day:
These are some of the benefits of meditation:
- Improved concentration – A clear mind makes you more productive, especially in creative disciplines like writing.
- Less bothered by little things – Do you sometimes allow yourself to get upset by little things? It is the nature of the mind to magnify small things into serious problems. Meditation helps us detach. We learn to live in the here and now, rather than worrying about the past or future. We do not worry about meaningless things, but see the bigger picture.
- Better Health – There have been numerous studies pointing to the health benefits of meditation. The reason is that meditation reduces stress levels and alleviates anxiety. If we can reduce stress, many health benefits follow.
- Knowledge of Self – Meditation enables us to have a deeper understanding of our inner self. Through meditation we can gain a better understanding of our life’s purpose.
Do you say to yourself you do not have time to sit quietly each day? I did! and often I said that when I began my sit practice…
But I don’t have time To Meditate
Many people like the idea of meditation, but feel they don’t have enough time. When you really want to do something you can find time. Get up earlier or watch 30 minutes less TV. Meditation requires an investment of time, but clearing the mind makes the the rest of the day more productive. Nothing is better than the feeling of inner peace. What is the point in being tremendously busy but unable to enjoy it? Meditation is not about retreating from the world; it gives us inspiration. Whatever you do, if you have peace of mind, your work will be more enjoyable and productive.
Through meditation, you attain the power to control your thoughts, and on occasion stop them completely. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t attain a silent mind straightaway. It takes time and practice. There is nothing really else to it; meditation is a simple and spontaneous action. Unfortunately, our mind is used to complication and it takes time to unlearn bad habits.
Here is a an explanation to help you get started. Write 15 minutes per day onto your calendar. Just a paltry 15 minutes out of a 24 hour day can help you live healthier and think more clearly to help you determine a new path for a new future you. Sit in a chair upright in same location each day. Quiet means quiet, no music, no other household chatter. Find a quiet location for your daily sit practice.
One Pointed Concentration
However you learn to meditate, you must learn to concentrate on one thing at a time. Usually, the mind tries to hold several different thoughts and ideas at once. When you sit down to meditate for the first time, you realize how cluttered the mind is. Mediation teachers have described the mind as a “mad monkey”. However, the mind can be tamed and forced to concentrate on a single thought.
One helpful technique is concentrating on a candle flame. Narrow your gaze to the small tip and block out all other thoughts. When you get distracted, go back to focusing on the candle flame. You can also use other objects like a small dot or flower. The important thing is that you concentrate only on one thing at a time. http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/4-reasons-you-should-meditate-and-how-to-get-started/
Leave those regrets behind.
Consider the path I am on. Jump into #MKE Master Key Experience.
Do not feel sorry for yourself. Do something today.
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